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I agree with Lainy. Your fighting attitude and hope will get you through this. Along with all of us.
Hello and welcome to our world. As you have already heard, you have found the best place to be when dealing with this horrible, unpredictable cancer. The people here are truely amazing and will be here to give you strength and knowledge.
Pam’s son’s words are truely words to live by. That and everyone here will get you through this.
Please let us know how things are going. Keep posting, even if it is just to vent your feelings. We all know what it feels like and are here for you when you need us.
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Darla
Lalupes,
I also want to welcome you to our group. Kris has done a great job of it and given you a lot of helpful insight. We truely are like a second family and everyone here has been touched by this horrid disease and know better than anyone else what it is like.
As Kris said, the only thing we know for sure is that we really know nothing for sure about this disease as it is so unpredictale & treats everyone differently. Try to be cautiously optimistic. There is always hope.
I am sure you will soon be hearing from some of our UK members.
Take care and keep in touch.
Darla
Dear Elicia,
I am so sorry that things are not going well for your Mom, but atleast now you have help. I think the most important thing is to keep her as comfortable & pain free as possible.
Make the most of what time you have left with her and know that you are doing your best by her. We all know what you are going through and it isn’t easy for anyone, the patient or the care givers and family.
Please keep in touch and let us know how things are going. We are all here for you.
Your Mom, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaI have to agree with you on that point, Louise. It is questionable. As Kris mentioned, in Sweden everyone is treated the same.
Lisa,
Glad to hear the good news. I too think that with your attitude you will be here for those graduations.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaAmy,
I too am hoping things will continue to improve for your Mom. All this baby news is so uplifting. Waiting to hear more.
I had valet parking when Jim was in the hospital & thought it was great. Fortunately I didn’t encounter any problems. Sorry to hear that you did. As you said, it isn’t that big of a deal, but just one more irritating thing you need to deal with at a time when already have enough on your plate.
Take care and keep us updated on both your Mom & the baby.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDear Teresa,
I am so sorry to hear that you are now facing the loss of your husband so soon after losing Alan. My thoughts & prayers are with you & your husband. Know that we are all here for you when you need comfort & support.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaHi Karldot,
Welcome to the site & I am glad you decided to sign in and start posting. As you already know from reading, there is a lot of knowledge here and the most wonderful, compassionate people you want to know.
I am sorry you need to be here and that your Dad is dealing with this awful, unpredictable cancer.
Unfortunately I don’t have any answers for you, but I am sure you will be hearing from others shortly who may be able to advise you.
It is just my opinion, but I think that at 80, your Dad’s quality of life is a very important factor. If he is still golfing, it sounds like he is doing pretty well and doing what makes him happy.
As for the weight loss & stomach pain. That is something that should be looked into. Talk with his doctor’s and if necessary even get a second or third opinion. Then he can make a more informed decision as to which direction to go.
You are right, there are no mircale cures, but there are mircales as have been seen on this board.
Take care. I am sure you will be hearing from others shortly.
Darla
Hi Elizabeth,
We have all felt what you are feeling & know what you ae going through. I am glad you found this site early on. Remember that everyone here will be with you every step of the way if you want us to be. You are lucky to have such a loving, supportive family. I hope you are still here writing & supporting others for years, too.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDavid,
Great words to live by for all of us. I think you have a great attitude. Keep on living your life to the fullest, one day at a time.
Darla
Beth,
Lainy is right. You may want to try again with another doctor. I do recall that when Jim first started having some discomfort they had to try twice to get a stent in his ureter too. The first doctor could not get it & the next day another one did get it placed.
Darla
Beth,
I am sorry to hear that things aren’t going well. Hopefully that will change soon. I really don’t have any answers for you but wanted you to know I am thinking of you and your husband and hoping for the best. I am sure you will be hearing from others shortly who have had similar experiences that will be able to give you some answers. Good luck to you. Take care.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaI agree with everything that has been said above. My situation with my husband was similar to what you described except that he died, in the hospital, the morning I was trying to get hospice set up. I too have thought & felt what you are now and have to believe that everything happened the way it did for a reason and that there was nothing more I could have done or say that would have changed it. As Patty said, we all did our best with the circumstances we were given. I think we all have these doubts.
The “what if’s and if only’s”.
It has been almost a year since Jim passed on and I am going through some of that again now remembering those last days, so your posting this question at this time and the wonderful responses you have gotten are also helping me.
Patty, thanks for posting that link on care givers regret. It is helpful and comforting. I am wondering if it can be posted somewhere more visable and easily accessable for others going through this same thing.
Booklover, We are all here for you. My thoughts & prayers are with you & your family.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaI also agree that it is a mentality issue, but one that we need to look beyond. I do realize the differences between the US and smaller countries, but our health care system as it is, is broken, and I for one would gladly pay higher taxes to be taken care of from birth to death. In the long run it would actual cost less than the way it is now. I don’t think the quality and care would be much different than it is now and could possibly be better. I think the quality of life would improve and people would be happier & less stressed, too, as an added benefit. So anyway, this is just my 2 cents worth for what it is worth!
This really is an interesting discussion and although we alone can’t solve anything, maybe we can all learn a little if we all keep an open mind. There are pros & cons to both sides.
