darla

I also can relate to all of you and everything that has been said. It is the same for me. It has been almost 3 years and I still miss my husband so very much. Life does go on, we will all be OK, but our lives will never be the same and there will always be a part of us that has been lost forever. Together we can help and comfort each other and help each other to heal.

Love & Hugs To All,
Darla

Yes Margaret, I agree with Lainy. If this is Tom’s time to move on, you will make it. You will be OK. It has been almost 3 years for me and I had never been alone either, but I am doing OK. It hasn’t always been easy, but we do what we have to do. We have no choice but to deal with whatever we are given. You are a strong lady and whatever the outcome you will deal with it. I too am hoping things will turn around once again for you and Tom, but know that if and when the time comes, we are all here for you.

With lot’s of love & hugs for you both.
Darla

Dear Pauline,

As you know, the feelings you expressed mirror mine. You have said it well. The poem is so appropriate. You know I am thinking of you as we travel this road of sadness together.

Some how, we will all get thorough this, one day at a time.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

Mary,

I feel so badly for you and Tom and know exactly what you are feeling and going through. I’ve been there, the only difference being that it all went so quickly we didn’t have time to think about what was happening. For Jim it was less than 2 months from start to finish. For me it was hard to accept because it went so quickly, but thinking back I can now say I am glad in a way that he didn’t have to suffer very long. We too seemed to go from one problem to another. In and out of the hospital. The last time he was home they wanted us to have some time out of the hospital together, but he ended up back there, too. I think he also felt it was all too hard on me. I really didn’t mind. I just was doing what I had to do for him. We were together 45 years. Married 41. Also did everything together 24/7. It will be 3 years the beginning of September since Jim passed on and yes, I still miss him. It still hurts and I have a big hole in my heart and life that no one can fill, but I am doing OK. Some days are better than others, but I have realized that we are much stronger than we think. I’m not going to say it is easy, but you will get through this and you will be OK. Just be there for him and yes, keeping Tom comfortable and as free of pain as possible is the most important thing.

Know that I am thinking of you both and hoping for the best for both of you as you deal with all of this.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

Margaret,

I too know all too well how hard it was to say yes to that question. Thinking of you and Tom. Lots of prayers going out to you both.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

Jen,

I am so sorry for your loss. Your dad is now at peace and no longer suffering. He will always be with you in your heart and memories. My thoughts are with you and your family at this sad time.

Darla

Dear Rose,

I am so sorry to hear that your dad has passed so quickly. Try to take some comfort in knowing that he is no longer in pain or suffering. He will always be with you in your thoughts and memories. You will find that his love still surrounds you. My thoughts are with you and your family at this sad time.

Love & Hugs,
Darla

Marion,

Relax and enjoy your trip. As Lainy said, it is well deserved. Travel safely.

Love & Hugs,
Darla