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Well I would say that was a lovely Christmas and beautiful Memories were made. Glad you got to make your trip as well. Nice as we get “older” how much the gifts from the heart count.
We have 4 grand children living near us and they have stated how there are certain things we have that some day they would like. So, this year for Xmas we wrapped up everything they had asked for and gave it to them. I don’t know who felt better, us or them!!!
We sincerely hope that your mother continues to have no/little pain and can enjoy some more special moments with her family.Hi Scraggles and welcome to our Family. I would also suggest a second opinion and if need be a third. Can you tell us where you are located as I am sure you will be getting lots of responses. We are so glad you came forward, we know how scary and hard a step it is to take, but I know you will be glad you joined us.
Dearest Janet, tears are not always bad tears. Its a way of letting feelings out with a much better result than holding them in. I went to Mass with Teddy and I found myself tearing not because he is gone but of all he has gone through and knowing what lies ahead one day but yet he was sitting next to me. Then I woke up the next morning with a sinking feeling of ‘what would he do if something happened to me first’. So, even though its a joyous time one cannot get through it without the past and present and future stepping in. Hopefully you can now continue in a direction that is good and right for you.
P.S. Every time you e mail me I yell out, “got another note from Australia”. Take care and know there is a lot of family out here who care about you.What a way to end Christmas and start the New Year! Just goes to show once again we are not statistics. Enjoy!!!
Cin…I agree with all of the above. My husband is 77 and being treated aggressively. Like they said, get another opinion ASAP. This doctor has not told you anything or done anything. It is up to your father to make his decisions and it sounds like he wants to fight. Have you not seen an Oncologist yet? The answers this doctor gives you just shows that he is not that familiar with CC> Please get the records ASAP and find another doctor. Perhaps if we knew where your dad lives we could be more helpful.
Not unheard of. But unusual. This CC is so different in so many ways for so many that about the one thing we know for sure is that we know not much!!! Teddy was 73 when he started. Your brother has age on his side. We have family on our site where there are survivors after being told nothing could be done. We do NOT listen to statistics because in reality we just don’t fit. Do you know exactly what his DX was? Where is the location? How large? Why they said no surgery? We can relate our experiences to you but that does not mean your brother will go through the same things. It’s really hard to give you advise not having enough information on what the doctors said outside of no surgery. If you can find out some more info that would be helpful.
Absolutely Prayer works and that is why Teddy is a Miracle Man! He survived an aborted Whipple, an 8 Hour Whipple, a double ecoli infection, a hole at the resection, 2 blood infections, a return of CC a year ago and now it has returned again but is shrinking all on it’s own. He is 77 now and all of this is a Miracle. Every time he meets a new doctor and says he is a 4 year survivor of CC, the doctor says, you should not even be here! No one tells this old Sicilian he should not be here! TEddy believes in all things powerful. So, he has sung in our Jewish choir for 13 years and on Sunday goes to Mass to ask forgiveness!!
Everyone needs to have faith, courage, hope and attitude.I have 1 idea. Can he possibly come out near you? You have the best Mayo right near you. They are fabulous and you could even start by having his wife send them his test results and they will tell her if they can help him or how to proceed. Please keep us posted.
Hi Bean and welcome to our family. We are very sorry to read about your brother. Anger, denial, sadness are all part of the process. Then you will get busy researching and the fight will begin. If you go to the top of the page we have a search button that is very helpful. Read as much as you can. Where are you located? Is this doctor familiar with CC? Remember you have every right for a 2nd, 3rd or more opinions. All you have to do is gather his test results and send them to another Hospital or doctor. Today is Christmas Eve and your brother is still right here with you.
Hi Bean. My daughter’s boyfriend was DX 3 years ago with Lymphoma (he is 48). Beside the chemo treatment he went naturalpathic. He goes to a doctor here in Phoenix for Vitamin C intravenously and he swears by it. He has met people with all kinds of cancer who have had years of being cancer free. Now that is not to say it is for everyone but doctors are beginning to think more about it as a side treatment. Most insurance companies will not pay. He has never feel better in his life. Along with the treatments he has gone Organic with food and products, the best he can. He builds pools and has not missed a day of work since this started. There is a clinic that was started here by an Oncologist (I will have to see if I can find the name) and although it is very pricey there you can read about it then find another natur. doc to do the deed. I will see if I can find it for you.
Dearest Sarah. I can only imagine the sadness you feel but I am also imagining John watching your torment and feeling so sad about you as well. I know for sure he was amazed and grateful at how you helped him through the nightmare of a journey he traveled, but like you say he would not have had it any other way either. I always feel that a part of the grief is the emptiness of no one to tend to anymore, to sit by each day, it is a tremendous void physically and mentally. If I may suggest seeing a grief counselor I would.
Sometimes we need a little nudge. I also believe that when you are feeling better you will be more open to recognizing signs that John is around you. I am enclosing a poem that I just love and hope it will help you also. Please stay in touch with us and let us know how you are doing.You can shed tears that he is gone,
Or you can smile because he lived,
You can close your eyes and pray that he will come back,
Or you can open your eyes and see all that he has left.
Your heart can be empty because you can’t see him
Or you can be full of the love that you shared,
You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday,
Or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.You can remember him and only that he is gone
Or you can cherish his memory and let it live on,
You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back,
Or you can do what he would want:
Smile, open your eyes, love and go on
