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Oh Linda I am so sorry. I hope you can feel the comforting arms of this community holding you tight with love as you push through this difficult time. So glad you were with your husband as he made his passage, and I hope the beautiful love you shared holds comfort for you in the days to come.
With love,
MargaretLinda thank you for posting the link — I appreciated being able to read about your talented husband, who seemed to have such a passion for living life to the fullest. Margaret
Dear Lou,
Your mother is beautiful. What a gorgeous woman. Thank you for sharing the photo with us. I’m so sorry.
MargaretHi Nan,
My husband behaved in much the same way that you describe. He remained optimistic that he would return to work right up until the very end. Initially we cried quite a bit together, and even joked at how it “cleared out our sinuses.” But I too cried a lot more when I was out of his sight, and tried to be optimistic and positive when I was with him.I’m glad that I took the steps I did, such as the ones you describe, with regard to asking him about email passwords, and other information that only he knew, so that I wouldn’t be at a complete loss when the inevitable happened.
Still, I regret that I didn’t have the clarity of mind to have more of a “goodbye” talk, because that is what I truly long for now. I was so in shock with the sudden diagnoses and monumentally fast decline, however, that I didn’t even know how to form this idea or know that I would want it once he was gone.
I am glad that I made a little video with my phone of us talking to each other. So I do have that and cherish it dearly.
So I would advise anyone and everyone to have some kind of a goodbye talk, in some fashion or another — it is something that I would imagine would be cherished.
Perhaps others who have taken that step can chime in. I just know that it’s something I wish I’d had the presence of mind to manage.
I’m wishing you all the best.
Much love,
MargaretHi Lainy,
I only met you recently through this site and I’m sorry about the roller coaster ride you are on. I’ll be keeping you in my prayers that you’ll be coming in for a smooth landing, and quickly.
As others have said, you are a big part of the core of this site, a big part of its heart and soul. I am always happy and comforted to see your messages, which are always full of so much wit and wisdom and caring and love and encouragement.
You’re kind and encouraging words last fall helped bring me through a very dark moment after my husband’s death last fall; it was so helpful to have your soothing encouragement and comfort.
Please know that you’re on the prayer lists of many, many people, and whatever doctor’s office or medical facility you find yourself in, take a moment to feel the warmth of the big group of friends from this site whose hearts and thoughts and prayers are right there with you.
Love, Margaret
Wow! Definitely the right thing to do Lainy with the fish from Asia.
Culturally it’s got to be hard for folks to switch up their diet, but better safe than sorry. Glad your grandkids are making the change.
Stella and Lainy, I agree with you both about the big middles. Every man I see with a big middle, I just cringe thinking what he may be harboring and what might be in his future. Since CC is a rare cancer here in the U.S. the odds are that it’s not cc. But still …
My dear sweet husband even said to me that he wished his “big tummy” could have just been fat, like all the other men out there. We were both clearly jealous of “normal” fat stomachs.
John and I lived in Venezuela for a bit, and now I wonder if he didn’t pick it up there. Although, John never ate raw fish.
On the other hand, John did break his arm as a 5-year-old, at a time when thorotrast contrast was still in use in U.S. hospitals. It’s my understanding this has been associated with cc risk.
It seems trying to figure out where cc comes from in a specific person could be very difficult, unless there’s been a very clear-cut and obvious exposure, such as the one you mention Lainy, for your Teddy.
One thing’s for sure, I’ll never eat raw fish, and I’m certainly teaching my kids not to as well. — Margaret
Dear Linda,
I am so sorry. What a wonderful life you and your husband have shared. How beautiful that you were there for him.You have traveled a difficult road since his diagnosis, and he was no doubt grateful he had his loving wife by his side throughout.
Losing one’s soul mate is a huge challenge. I pray that you receive comfort and strength in the months ahead, but do reach out to all the resources around you, including others who have faced this loss on this forum.
Hoping you can feel the embrace I send. Realize that you will find strength within yourself that you didn’t know you had.
Love, MargaretThis is so helpful in trying to understand this strange disease. Thanks for sharing this helpful information Percy.
MargaretLinda,
Your love for each other is beautiful. Glad you are together at this time. Sending you wishes for comfort and keeping you in my thoughts.
Much love,
MargaretGerardo,
God bless you on this painful journey. How wonderful that you and Ginger had one another.
Wishing you comfort,
Margaret
