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I learned early on you cannot go by that number at all. My sister’s never got above 110 at any time, even at her worst and the cancer killed her in 10 months. I knew people whose numbers were in the thousands and did a lot better than she did. So don’t worry about that number!!!
I am praying and thinking of her every minute…hoping she is not suffering. Having been through this, you almost wish you could be there to help. I know her sisters and family will help her and be with her.
This was the first mother’s day without my sister. She was such an awesome mother and when we went to put flowers on her grave I just cried and cried. It hurt so bad that she is not here anymore to be a mom to her kids. I think it will always hurt. I can’t imagine it ever getting better.
Yeah, I have been there. Once they decide no more chemo…seems like everything goes from bad to worse very quickly. My sister lasted less than three months once we stopped all treatment. I am sorry if this is the case for you.
I am crying right along with you. It’s been 3 months and it hurts as bad right now as it did the day she passed. I sat with her at the hospice house never leaving her side for 9 days. Day and night. We were very lucky to have such a bond with our sister…a lot of people will not understand that. She was my best friend for 40 years. How am I supposed to just live without her now? I can tell you are feeling the same things and so I hurt even more.
How old was your sister Jane and when did you lose her?
Jane, I know I said this before…but when I read what you write, I feel like I am reading my own feelings and thoughts. I feel like it is useless to pray to or hope for miracles. I did all of that and all it got me was my sister gone in a very short time. And a lot of suffering. My heart is hurting today.
I did too. Thank you. I am happy when people ask me what my bracelet is for….so I can get that message out there. Awesome.
I feel like when I read this post, I was the one who had written it. I lost my beautiful sister after 10 months and she was only 42. Two teenage kids and a family who adored her. She was my best friend and I want to talk to her everyday. I am sad for you and your family.
You are now experiencing what was the most difficult thing I have ever gone through with my sister. You are just sitting there looking for changes and the things they tell you to look for. I am truly sorry for you and what you and your family are dealing with. My sister never, ever showed any of the things they told us to look for. She had better vitals than I do the night before she passed. Her urine output was strong and hands were so warm to the touch. God Bless You and your family.
You know what… I want to know the answer to that too. In the 2 1/2 months she has been gone, I am struggling more with every day that goes by. I am also reliving Shirley’s last week alive and how awful it was. This is a nightmare that won’t stop!!!!
Hospice is awesome. You can take a break when you need to and they are there. And they can medicate more when they need it. My sister had a pump but they always had more if we needed it. She got very disoriented at the end too before she went into her coma. And they were sure it had gone to her brain. But that only lasted a day or two before she “went to sleep” as we said. But she would wake up once or twice a day before she passed. Like I said that lasted 13 days in hospice. Everyone is so different. She never got the signs they told us to look for either. Her urine was still flowing, her heart was strong and steady and her blood pressure was awesome clear up until that morning she passed. Good luck to you. We are here for you.
My sister went into the hospital in December – a week before Christmas. They sent her home “to die” within a week. Over the next couple of weeks she quit eating and was vomiting a lot. Then she went into the hospice house on January 15th and died on January 23rd. I look back and that is such a short time. Really a month from being in the hospital. But she just quit eating and drinking all together. They say that it takes approx. 10 to 14 days to pass if they are not eating and it took her 13 days. Our family struggled with the same decisions…when to take off work and how long will it take. And it really sucks to have to think that way. But it’s reality. The day she went into hospice house I never left her side again. I figured if my job didn’t want to wait for me, I would go to work at McDonalds. She was so much more important. My job did wait for me…I am lucky. And I don’t have any regrets. I knew at the time that she was so much more important than any job. I love and miss her so much and this will be so hard for you. I’m so sorry.
