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Hi Sam,
I sorry that your mum has this disease and she is now rapidly declining. I can only begin to imagine the emotion and energies that have gone in to reuniting her with her daughter. I just wanted to say that if you’re mum is going downhill daily, do all you can now if there are things any of you want to say, do or communicate. My sister was taken from us very quickly. She was diagnosed in October and died in March. Until 2 weeks before she died the plan was to give her chemo but she went downhill very quickly. She was told she had at best 2 months to live and died 2 weeks later. It was incredibly hard but the honesty of her doctor allowed her to do what she needed to and for all of us to support her.
Are you getting support from the hospice or macmillan nurses and your mums GP? There is so much that can be done to help with any symptoms such as sickness, pain or agitation.
Dear Christine,
I am so sorry that your mum has passed. She would have known that you were with her. X
Hi Patzel,
I agree with everything the others have said. I know that in the rural areas of Scotland, doctors may have to manage things slightly differently but I believe there is a case for being more cautious and almost being a step ahead because of the complexities of logistics and transportation to a major hospital being more challenging. That’s without a condition of CC in the mix which needs his specialist to re-assess.
Can I ask – the red hot swelling – was there previously a drain there or a point or entry for anything during a procedure? If you think he is septic then he needs hospitalised -no questions asked. Would it be Aberdeen or Inverness he would be air lifted too?
My/our list is not financially driven. It’s little things like finding the time to do something together such as a coffee without the kids. For me I now burn the ‘nice’ candles that I was keeping for something special, wear the shoes, jewelry, clothes (and a underwear) I was keeping for good. Remembering not to get cross with my daughter over stupid things, be less shouty, worry less over the dust and to try and take nothing for granted as it all could be taken away so quickly.
Dear Betsy,
You brave, remarkable woman. I am so sorry to that your daughter Paula has died – I can’t begin to imagine how difficult this is for you.
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Hi Sandie,
I am sorry to hear this. I so hope the chemo has a positive effect and that your inspiring attitude helps kick this cancer into touch.
X
Hi Jules,
Sorry I’m coming to the conversation late as I have been away. I’m with the others – get another opinion. There’s to much to lose and everything to gain by getting one.
Me and my sister have a ‘life’s to short’ fund. Nothing grand, but since losing our sister very suddenly our whole perspective has changed. I also used to talk about bucket lists – now it’s a living life and do it now list.
I loved reading your post Pat. Only this morning it was going round and round my head about this disease having such awful survival odds and trying to reason out from the forum, just how many people I could recall surviving.
Keep doing well and shout about it here. We love hearing about it:-)
Thank you everyone. I’ve been crying on and off all weekend – good crying just with the emotion of it all – cried when the kids set off on their race yesterday, crying now watching the start of the race on the telly – who knows the state I’ll be in when we get to the finish line shortly.
Dear Donellalu,
I am sorry that your mum has died. She will have known you were there with her holding her hand. My husband is running on Sunday to raise funds for the UK CC charity – you are so right that we need a cure or earlier diagnosis.
Oh Oceangirl,
I am very, very sorry. Nothing I can write will make this easier or take away the sadness right now. I believe that feel him with you. I know you will be busy looking after each other and his son but please look after yourself too. x
