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Dear Kay,
I can only echo what everyone else has already said. I too am so sorry for your loss.My story is similar to yours and many others. My husband was only ill for 7 weeks before he passed and I found this site a few days later. It has helped me tremendously and will be of help to you too. The support and understanding of everyone here is just wonderful. I know how hard it all is. Try to be thankful that your Mom is now in a better place, no longer suffering. She will be with you forever in your heart and memories. Grieving is not an easy road to travel and is different for everyone, but you don’t have to do it alone. We are all here for you. Come back often for comfort, strength and support or just to vent your feelings. Take care Kay & know that I am thinking of you.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDear Sandi,
What a lovely tribute. So many of us can truely relate to what you are saying & feeling. I think that song says it all, beautifully. I am thinking of you and smiling through my tears.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaOh Charlene,
I know what you mean. All those “if only’s”. Keep rambling & sharing. We all know & understand and I think it helps to express those feelings and share them with others. Take care Charlene. You are in my thoughts. I hope you are doing OK.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDear Janet,
I too can clearly relate to what you are feeling. I don’t think there is any way to prevent or escape all of these feelings. I guess it is just part of the grieving process that we are forced to endure. Just know that we all understand and are here to give each other support and strength as we try to deal with all of the ups & downs of this sad, lonely journey we are traveling.
Know that I am thinking of you and the boys and I hope that today will be a better day for all of you.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaHi Everybody,
I also want to let you all know that I am thinking of you all over the holidays. Yes, Pauline it is just as hard as last year, maybe harder. I too will be relieved when it is all over. I think last year we were still in shock and a fog. This year it is becoming clearer every day that this is our life now. I too am trying to be stong & remember all the good times, and there were a lot. Even small things take on so much more meaning now.
I think it is great that you and Julia got to chat and will be meeting up for coffee. If only we were all closer together so that we could all meet. I keep hoping that maybe someday we can work it out.
So everyone take care and do what you need to do to get you through this holiday season. I am thinking of all of you fondly and hoping you are all doing OK .
Love & Hugs,
DarlaLainy,
I copied that poem the last time you posted it and read it every morning. It does help to put things in perspective and starts my day on a more positive note. Thanks for posting it again. I hope it will be helpful to you too Sarah.
Darla
Dear Sarah,
I am so sorry for the pain, sadness and suffering you are enduring, but I do know it well. After almost 45 years together I lost the love of my life, my soul mate to this disease 16 months ago. I feel like a part of me has gone with him. It changes you forever. Try to remember the good times and that he will be with you forever in your heart and those memories. Every day is a challenge, but I try to take it one day at a time. Sometimes it is one moment at a time. I don’t think any of it ever really goes away, but we just learn to live with it all and try to go on. I keep coming back here because the understanding, caring and support are amazing. I hope you will come back too. It does help and I also find that trying to help others dealing with this disease also seems to help me. It makes me feel that at least something positive is coming from all of this.
Take care of yourself now Sarah. Know that I am thinking of you as we all travel this lonely road of grieving.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaI too am surprised to hear this as I thought he seemed to be doing well. My deepest condolences go out to his family and friends. Darla
Kristen,
I agree with Kris. You belong here just as much as the rest of us and your opinions are valued as much as all of the others. I too sometimes find it hard to come on, obviously for different reasons. I also sometimes hesitate to post as I feel I don’t want to be too negative, but thinking back, I found this site a few days after my husband passed, and I think had I found it sooner, I too would have wanted to know it all straight up, the good, the bad & the ugly. As Kris said, we are like a family. We need each other because of our connections to this disease and need to say what we want & how we feel. I guess all we can do is take what we want & leave the rest. I don’t know if this is helpful to you at all, but I too hope that you won’t stay away too long.
Darla
Kris,
I can’t give you any advice, but I do remember that although my husband’s tumor was very large it didn’t show up any where or on anything except when they did a needle biopsy and then the PET Scan. Not sure why that was. His had not spread anywhere and was only in the liver. I’m hoping you will get some help & some answers soon. This all has to be so frustrating for you. Try not to let it get to you. I’m sure they will sort it all out.
Darla
I too would like to extend my deepest sympathies to you and your family. Your Mom is now in a better place, no longer in pain or suffering from this awful disease. Know that she will always be with you in your heart & memories. She will always be near you, watching over you. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers as you travel this sad journey of grieving. Take care & know that we are all here for you.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaMerry Christmas to you too Carol. It has been almost 16 months for me and it is still hard, but you are right, all of our loved ones would want us to go on. We all know, understand & grieve with you. Just keep taking it one day at a time. That is all we can do. Take care and know that I am thinking of you as we all cope with the holiday season.
Love & Higs,
Darla
