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I too am so sorry to hear that Rose has passed on. My sympathy goes out to her family & friends. She was a fellow Wisconsinite and also sounded to me like someone I would have like to have met in person. May she rest in peace along with all of our loved ones who have passed on from this horrible disease. Darla
Dear Danielle,
What you are feeling is to be expected with what you are all going through right now. It is “normal” for you under these trying circumstances. I too am amazed at the strength you are showing, even tho’ I am sure that inside you don’t feel that strong, you are doing your best & holding everyone & everything together. That is a lot to put on anyone shoulders. There is no easy way to get through all of this, but as Marion said, we are all here for you when you need someone to lean on for support & encouragement.
I am glad that you are taking care of your needs too, that is so important right now. You will keep on going, you will get through this. Just take it one day at a time and know that you can come here when ever you need to even if it is just to vent your feelings. Many of us have been where you are now and will be here to listen and help you in any way we can.More prayers going out to all of you.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDear Charlene,
I am glad that your situation seems to be looking a bit better. It sounds like selling your house and moving in with your Mother-In-Law will be a good solution for both of you for now. It will give you a chance to breath and think things over and helping her will keep you busy and hopefully relieve some of the pain. None of this is easy, is it? I too am so grateful for everyone here. We will all get through this some how, together.
Please stay in touch and let us know how things are going.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDear Danielle,
I am so sorry for the pain you are going through and that these are not the answers you would have liked to hear, but glad you were able to be strong & take a stand asking the questions that needed to be addressed. As difficult as this all is, atleast you now know what you are dealing with and can make the most of the time you have. I too am glad you have family there to support you. You, Jim & your family will be in my thoughts & prayers. I hope you will keep us posted as to how you are all doing or even if you just need to vent. We are all here for you to help, support or just listen when you need us.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDear Kris,
It does sound a lot more positive than negative. I too will be thinking good thoughts for you. With your great attitude & cautious optimisim you can’t go wrong. Lots of good thoughts & prayers coming your way.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaThinking positive thoughts for Dave and you and will keep you both in my thoughts & prayers. Hoping for the best on the 19th.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDear Danielle,
I too am so sorry to hear of what you and Jim are going through. It makes me so sad & my heart is also breaking for you. So much to think of and deal with. I know well what you are feeling, as I too was there not too long ago. My husband was also a Jim. I will be hoping for more positive things for you and your Jim. Try to be guardedly optimistic. This disease is so unpredictable, both good & bad. I too will keep you in my thoughts & prayers. Wishing you comfort, strength & peace.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDear Charlene,
I am so sorry that you are feeling so down & that your friends & family are not supportive of you. I know just how you feel, as I feel much the same. I don’t think that anyone who has not lost the most important person in their life in the way that we have has any right to judge you and your feelings.
Here we all know what it is like & we all understand. You don’t just “get over it” in a certain length of time. I feel like the pain & loneliness will always be with us. We just need to learn how to live with it & move on. I just haven’t figured out how to do that.
I too am not one for counseling or support groups. I feel that the wonderful people on this site, all of whom are dealing with this horrible cancer truely understand & are my support group. So many of us have recently lost our husbands to this awful disease. Everyone here is so understanding, sympathetic, helpful & supportive. I have found a lot of comfort & made some good friends here. We are all here for each other.
Try to hang in there & come here as often as you need to talk, vent or what ever. We all know what you are going through & are sharing this lonely journey of grieving with you. You are not alone.
Take care Charlene.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDear Cyndi,
I’m glad you joined in our thread. All of us here know exactly what you are going through & how you are feeling as we share all of it with you. Please join in whenever you need to & vent all you want. We are all going through the same things as you and truely understand. Everyone here is so helpful & supportive. Others who have not had to go through what we have just can not truely understand. And now we don’t even know how to go on or how we fit in any more. I feel so badly for you as I know how it feels. It just hurts so much. I know how hard the next few days are going to be with the memorial service coming up & all that you will have to deal with. I will be thinking of you and hoping that you will be able to get through it all OK. Come on & talk all you want. Here there is always someone to listen & we won’t turn away. Take care & know that we are all here for you.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaBarbara,
I have to agree with Marion & Lainy. You may not want to go to more doctors for opinions, but I think it is important in order to make a better informed decision. When confronted with CC you need all the help & knowledge you can get. I too wish you the best of luck.
Darla
Hi Everyone,
I hope everyone is doing OK as we work our way through another weekend.
Pauline–I too am going through what you are and agree that it all does take its toll & is very exhausting. It also seems to make us vulnerable to being upset over even the smallest of problems. You do seem to be trying to channel some of this into postive things and I think that is very admirable of you. It isn’t easy, as it does bring back all of the issue that we have faced. Let us know how that is progressing.
I am glad that you & Sue are going to be able to get together on Sunday. It would be so nice if we could all be closer to one another & could get together over a cup of coffee now & then, but for now we will have to rely on the internet.
I hope things went OK with the repairs in Italy & that you enjoyed your time with your mum & sister.
Summer here has still not truely arrived. We get one good day & then it is back to cold & rainy. In one respect I am hoping that warm & sunny weather will help my spirits, but then again, it was so nice last summer when we were dealing with all of this & it was 90 degrees the day Jim passed, so it may just bring on more sadness. Who knows.
Every one take care & try to have as good a weekend as possible. Keep busy & stay in touch. I am thinking of all of you.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDear Deb,
I am so sorry for what you and your Dad are all going through. I too hate this horrific cancer. It doesn’t play fair. It sneaks up on you & hits with a vengence. I know how hard it is too accept & deal with all of this. It is all so overwhelming & exhausting. I don’t have any answers for you but I too will keep you & your family in my thoughts & prayers. I know it won’t be easy, but try to take a little time for you, too. You need to be strong so you can be there for your Dad.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaJamie,
I am so sorry that you were blown away by all that bad news. You have every right to all that you are feeling. I agree with Lainy that you can be realistically optimistic. You know your body & you have the right to decide which course you want to take from here. If this doctor does not agree with whatever you decide, find one who does. I hate this horrid disease & I share your anger. Please keep posting & let us know how things are going. You are in my thoughts & prayers.
Darla
Ralf,
I am so sorry to hear of Fiona’s passing. You are so right, she was too young. My husband was 62 & that was too young and Fiona was much younger. Atleast she achieved her goal of making it to your 5th anniversary and to have you by her side was a blessing. She is no longer in pain & struggling to fight this awful disease. I know that this is not much consolation right now, but try to take comfort in the fact that she will be with you forever in your heart & memories. Know that you are not alone. Many of us share your loss & grieving. Come back often. We are all here to help & support each other. So many of us have been where you are now. You are in my thoughts & prayers along with all the others affected by this awful cancer.
Darla
