jaynus

Hi Jen we haven’t chatted in a while. I sent you an email through the forum it had been so long since I wan on line and took me a bit to find your posts. Needless to say I now have an update. I am so sorry for your dad’s passing. My mother passed away in September only a few months after your dad. She too was trying to get into the Hospice you spoke of but there was no availablilty it was her favourite when we were looking as well. Her home care nurse would not allow her to wait though and urged her to take what was available. She ended up picking Southwood. A little far since me, my brother and her sisters and brothers all lived in the North but a very good facility as well. She brought in all her favourite things from home, even small peices of furniture they let her do whatever she wanted. It had a really nice garden terrace we spent a lot of time on before she got too sick. My mother was such a social butterfly there, she chatted it up for hours with a lot of the staff particularly one of the nursing aides that spent most of the time with her helping her with daily necessities. They became pretty close. She also touched a lot of the patients there and became an emotiional support for many of them until she couldn’t speak anymore. The chaplain said there was a specific patient named Tom who had been admitted only days after my mom and fell into a huge depression. My mom was the only one that was able to bring back his courage to eat and continue on. She said she hadn’t seen such displays of courage like hers in a while. These are things I will never forget. I really enjoyed reading your posts about your dads last days and the words he spoke and knowing that there was something there on the other side to greet him. I was never to sure about that with my mom she spent her last days fighting so hard to get out of the bed and talk i just don’t think she was relaxed enough or at ease enough to eperieance that peace. I try not to think too much about her last days though. After reading what you posted it gives me hope that there were people and something there to greet her on the other side even though she didn’t speak of it. Our parents were both the same age and went through theire journeys at very close intervals. I am so happy your dad got to go to that Hospice I know first hand how nice it was. I hope they are both happy and at peace wherever they are and maybe even exchanging words.

Hope we get to talk soon my heart breaks for you and your loss I know how you feel as well as everyone else on this forum does. For me I struggle so much since I’m not even that close with my dad she was all I had and we were best frieds. You can’t even imagine how to carry on without them, but surprisingly you do and it’s something we should be very proud of ourselves for.

Just want to let you know your in my thoughts, take care and hope to talk soon
Janet

He looks very good. So nice to see!

that story sounds exactly like my mother’s, (minus the chemo and tumor shrinking). She is unoperable with the cancer starting right in the same place on her main bile duct at the branch as well. It is now in her liver as well unfortunately but she has been juicing, accupuncture, positive thoughts and calmness. They discouraged her from chemotherapy as they were concerned cause she was a little weak but she has improved over the last few months. Energy levels better, and amazing color and appetite. Just having some issues now with extra pain and fluid. We are all so afraid the tumours have grown and are waiting for a CT. I have sent her your story so she can read it for motivation. I am so happy to hear of your success!! I hope this can be possible with my poor mother too.

Take care of yourself and thanks for the uplifting story. It lifted my spirits. It has been such a struggle!

Janet

Hi Pauline as far as eating it will probably be a bit of a battle until he learns what his body will accept and reject and what not. Hopefully he will find a pattern and able to figure out what works for him. For energy my mother has been doing heavy accupunture on pressure points accompanied by heat on pressure points as well. This combined with therapy for her mind/emotions. I’ve been reading her You can heal your life, Louise Hay. Her energy has picked up quite a bit. Maybe you should try the accupunture. If you can get some energy back it might produce a domino effect on his appetite as well. (Bring up his spirits therefore increasing appetite)

Hope things improve.
Janet