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Hello Everyone,
Sorry to hear about the illness – Pauline, hope you are feeling better now, and Janet – shingles are nasty things – I had them once and I know. I do agree that , having gotten through the holiday period, we will all improve. Sue – let us hear how that new job is going – hope you are enjoying it? Darla – those anniversaries are very difficult. I have been very busy at work myself, and need to hit the shower now – another day is beginning! It is best to be busy, though – I agree – and I do have my projects going – I am embroidering a picture for my daughter now, and reading a couple of books. I still am in the bell choir at church – I like that very much, so – these things keep my going.I can’t wait for spring and the gardening thing to start!Love – Joyce
Hi Danielle,
I am so happy to hear from you – sorry that this sadness we feel goes on and on, but I know that you are a strong woman, and you will find your way. We are all here for you when you need us.
Love – Joyce C.
Elaine,
How fortunate you are to have had a wonderful person like Gary in your life, and what a wonderful, thoughtful thing for him to do. It’s like my finding that Valentine card Butch gave me – it came with flowers on Valentines Day in 2008 – He wasn’t diagnosed until early March, so we didn’t know about the CC. The card said “To Joyce – my wife – , for life, and beyond’. I put it in my wallet (I was out when it was delivered), and forgot about it until months later, after he was gone, when I found it one day and read it. Anyway, I will look forward to meeting with you when you are here next. In the meantime, take care and God be with you.
Joyce
Hi Elaine,
I am sorry you are going through the terrible “downs” of ups & downs. This will go on for a very long time, but, as I said, it DOES get better – not good, but – more bearable. I did try a bereavement group – last January (Butch passed on in early October of 2008). It did help me, and I go to a Young widow’s bereavement group now (also through Hospice) – the first Monday of the month – and have met some friends there who have become very dear to me. We go to the movies, out to dinner, etc. together – even went to NYC to see “Wicked” at Thanksgiving. It is very helpful to have friends who really understand each other, and we have something to look forward to – probably more helpful than the grievance group even.
I guess we all learned there is no “fix” to this thing, and certainly no quick answers. I just always tried to remember what everyone always said – time heals all wounds, and continue to work at rebuilding this new life. Having this site, and my friends here has certainly been a great help, and we would like to be here for you too.Love – Joyce
Oh , Janet, it is so difficult – last year at this time, the world was a different place for you. I sometimes think about that – that one moment in time when everything changed – it is the same for all of us. I am so very sorry that you are so sad – it will get better – it has for me. The one year anniversary was brutal, but – read Lainy’s poem – it does comfort me, reading it – makes me realize that we are not alone – our loved ones are around us in spirit. I will be thinking about you and the boys.
Love,
Joyce
Sophie,
I am overjoyed to see your posting on here, and, like the others, so sorry to hear all that you are going through. We are with you, and praying for you. You are such a special lady, and so very brave.
Love,
Joyce C.
We know, Janet – this is so difficult for you now. It is so raw when that anniversary approaches. Once it was over, it did get better, though – not so many flashbacks, etc. Just hang in there, and go day by day. We are all thinking of you.
Love – Joyce
Dear Kay,
Another voice to chime in and offer my condolences. We have suffered terrible losses collectively, and understand how you are feeling. As time goes by, you will be so glad that you were able to be there for your Mom and that she was able to remain at home. You can indeed think of that as a final “gift” to her. My thoughts and prayers are with you now as you grieve your loss.Joyce C.
I know, Janet – it must have been so hard for you. I slid backwards a bit myself this last couple of weeks, but for you – awful memories. You are such a strong woman, though, and you and the boys will muddle through. You just make sure they know how much you love them – and I am sure that you do – and be a comfort to each other.
Love – Joyce
Dearest Sarah,
On this Christmas Day I would like to say something comforting, and I find it difficult because it IS so tragic to lose someone so young and full of life. You have shown a remarkable understanding, far beyond your years. My Husband Butch passed away in October of 2008, and I still found this Christmas very difficult. However, I CAN say that those terrible memories have faded away somewhat, and now when I think about Butch, I think of the good times – and there were a lot of them – and I can tell you that life DOES get easier – not good, but – better than it was this last year. The pain will ease up, and your life will go on. Please come and visit us here whenever you feel lonely, and I hope that you have many friends and family around you for a support system. I don’t think I could have endured this w/o that loving support, and the help of the wonderful, caring people on this board.Love,
Joyce C.
Hello to all,
I agree – the holiday season is difficult this year also. My daughter and I were talking and said we may have been in shock last year – this year, I have enjoyed the Grandchildren, and the family gatherings, of course, but there is a sadness that doesn’t go away, does it? I think I have been doing SO well, but this has thrown me for a bit of a curve. I imagine it is the same for all of you, and I am thinking of you all during this holiday season. I am so glad that I have met you all, and shared this past year with you. I think of you all as my good friends. It is my hope that 2010 will be a better year for everyone, and that we will continue our friendship.
Love – Joyce
Carol,
It is good to hear from you. We understand how you feel, and wish you well as you continue on your journey to wholeness and peace. It does continue to get better as time heals us, not good, but better. Just know that we are thinking of you and wishing you well.Hugs to you,
Joyce C.
