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Hi Emily,
Glad you found some comfort in the site — it has helped me immensely in the last 6 months – I would have gone crazy without the chance to vent my feelings to people who completely understand once in a while. Funny that you were born in Calgary as well – are you still in the area?
You and your family are in my thoughts…
Jen
I just wanted to welcome you to the site Jan – I am sorry we are all in this as well, but at least here we are all in it together – whether a patient or caregiver, it’s nice to have so many others who understand what you are going through.
Thinking of you.
Jen
Hello – I do have a somewhat similar story to yours. Dad was diagnosed a month before your Mom (January 20th) and not able to have surgery. He is doing chemo, and has a scan tomorrow that will tell us if the chemo is helping, or if the cancer is spreading. I also had a baby this last year (she is 10 months old), and my Dad is also a very proud first time Grandpa. I can completely understand how you feel about the possibility losing a parent, and knowing your baby won’t grow knowing them… it seems we are going through very similar emotions!!
I know how hard it is, but try to enjoy every second you have with your Mom… time is so very precious and I am doing my best to remember that. I have my moments when my world just crumbles around me, as I’m sure most on this site do, but I have realized that every second I have is an incredible gift, a gift many people are never given…
Finding this site is a great thing for you – you will find SO many caring, wonderful people who will share stories and give you great advice….
Thinking of you and your Mom tonight….
Jen
I’m thinking of you today Gavin – I can only imagine the feelings you are faced with on days like this, and don’t look forward to facing them eventually myself. I think you should go out and enjoy that Indian meal and those lagers in his memory… I’ll have one with my husband tonight and we’ll cheers to his birthday, and to you and your warm memories of him
He’s with you always.Jen
JDH – my Dad was diagnosed in January and it was also deemed inoperable. He’s been doing chemo since, and has his first scan on July 14th. It will be a scary day for us all. Like others have said, it is a crazy rollercoaster ride, with more lows then any of us would like. I also have a baby of my own, but am not ready to say goodbye to him. The thought of it breaks my heart. However, after enough time, you will get stronger and realize that all you can do is enjoy every single second that you have with him, and be thankful for those precious minutes since many people never get them. I still have my days where I just want to curl up in a corner and cry (and sometimes do), or where a song on the radio will set off emotions in me that I thought I had under control, but for the most part, I just spend as much time with him as I can, and be thankful for the days he wakes up feeling “okay”.
I am thinking of you and your family — I really hope they get the stent in, as others have said, since I’m sure it will make her feel better, and I hope the chemo helps to slow the monster down and give you all more time.Jen
Hollie,
I am so sorry for the pain you are feeling right now. My thoughts and prayers are with you, your Aunt, and your family tonight…Jen
You’re both in my thoughts and prayers tonight Lainy – you have such amazing energy and help so many on this site – I hope all the positive energy being sent to you from people all over can give you back a bit of what you’ve given all of us at one point or another!
Enjoy the visits you’ll be having with family and friends – I am sure Teddy will make the best decision about any further treatment, and you will enjoy some quality time and make a whole lot more amazing memories with the miracle man!
Thinking of you both…
Jen
I’m so sorry for your loss, and for your children’s loss as well. What a difficult time you are all going through. Please know you are all in my thoughts and prayers, and hope you find some peace knowing he is no longer suffering… he will be with you all, always.
Jen
I can’t help either, but wanted you to know that you will be in my thoughts and prayers tonight… I’m so sorry for what you and your family are going through… a big hug to you.
Jen
Hi Laura,
I also do not have anything to add about the swelling, and this is a symptom my Dad has not yet had to deal with. He was also not a candidate for surgery (diagnosed in January), and has been doing chemo (on and off with a few complications along the way). I just want to welcome you here, and tell you that you will find a lot of support from very knowledgeable and caring people… it’s helped me being here, and I hope it does the same for you.Jen
I love that you are going to have a ceremony at your Dad’s bedside – a beautiful idea. I hope that he doesn’t suffer during the time he has left, and finds pain control that works for him.
Thinking and praying for you and your family.
Jen
Hana – I am so very sorry for what you are going through – my Dad is also fighting this terrible cancer and we don’t know how long he has left. We hope for months, but it’s so hard to tell. He was diagnosed in January and was not a candidate for surgery.
I would have your wedding – it is obviously very important to him, and it sounds as though he is fighting to be here for you in that moment. Should something happen beforehand, know that he will be with you, watching you say your vows… even if you are only surrounded by your closest family, it seems that the wedding is something he needs to know will not be cancelled, and I think it’s important to keep that promise for him.
If he makes it until then, may I suggest getting a video of the wedding and watching it with him since he won’t be able to be there in person? It would be a very special moment for the 2 of you to share. I believe that seeing his daughter get married will give him so much peace for his journey… it’s a very important moment for a Dad to know that his daugthers are okay… one thing I learned from my own father.
Please know that I, along with many others, will have you, your father, and your family in our prayers and thoughts tonight.
Jen
