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I am so sorry Nancy. I am glad to hear his passing was peaceful and you were all at his side and I’m sure he smiling down, so proud. My thoughts and prayers and with you and your kids right now, and in the days to come.
Jen
Wonderful news Philip!! Enjoy Hawaii – hopefully the weather here (in Calgary) is still as beautiful as it has been this last month when you return from your vacation!
Jen
I am so sad to read this Nancy. I hope that you still have some quality time with Doug, and many more memories can be made. I am thinking and praying for you all. Hearing about the confusion makes me think of Dad – as long as he has moments when he was still with us (rather then in his “other” world), he knew who we were. That was one thing that was always clear in his mind. I hope the new medications help him, and I hope that you get some rest… it’s so important.
All my love, prayers and positive thoughts…
Jen
Hi Nancy,
I just read this right now, and want you to know I am thinking about you and your family. I am with everyone else when I say that I hope it’s nothing more then a blockage, and he feels better soon. Will be praying for you tomorrow when you get the results…Jen
I am so sorry for your loss. I will be thinking and praying for you and your family, and hope you can find some peace and comfort from the love that will surround you in the days to come.
Jen
Ashley – I am also sorry to hear of your Mom’s passing, but thankful that it was peaceful and that you, like so many of us, find comfort in that peace. I have a 2 year old daughter as well, and her smiles help me on the sad days. I will be thinking and praying for you in the days to come. Take care of yourself now.
Jen
It’s been over a month since Dad passed away and if I am being completely honest, there are days now that I find so much more difficult then when he first passed. Last weekend would have been Mom and Dad’s 34th Anniversary… the first of many “firsts” that we will all have to face. One of the last days that Dad had any lucid moments, he picked a beautiful locket on a jewellers website as a gift for Mom, which I picked up and we gave on on the weekend. It was incredibly emotional, but wonderful for to to get something from Dad.
I had a complete breakdown (my first since he passed) this weekend – while at the theatre watching Harry Potter, of all things. There’s an incredibly emotional scene with his parents, and it really caught me off guard. I was lucky to be sitting with my best friend in the world, who held my hand and cried right along with me. The next scene was a train station in a place quite like heaven. The last day before Dad become unresponsive, he said he had a train to catch and that he wasn’t exactly sure where it was going, just that it was “going on”, which were there exact words in the movie. I felt Dad sitting with me right then, and had to smile remembering that Dad was so worried that he couldn’t afford the train because it was going somewhere so beautiful. My sweet brother just told him not to worry, the ticket was taken care of. Dad, of course, just said “oh well that’s just perfect”.
I’m babbling a bit, but feeling sad, and haven’t updated in quite a while. I am certainly having my share of “moments” lately, but we are all managing, and doing as well as can be expected, and taking care of each other. As Lainy would say, we are trying our best to get used to our “new normal”. I sure miss my Dad.
I read the posts daily and I’m thinking of you all.
Jen
Ashley – I am so sorry to hear the news. After seeing Dad go through his final weeks and days, all I can tell you is to be with her, tell her you will be okay, and let her know how much you love her, as often as you can. As for pain… Dad was in quite a bit of pain until his final week or 2, at which point they did manage to keep in under control. Hospice will have the ability to keep him comfortable, just stay on top of it. The second Dad cried out or seemed even slightly uncomfortable, they gave him something. There is NO need for her to suffer.
I will be thinking and praying for you in the days to come. It’s a hard time, but you find strength from somewhere to handle it. I hope more memories can be made and you have some quality time left with her.
Love and positive thoughts.
Jen
Anp – I’m so sorry for the news you received. As for having small children, I have a 2 year old – Dad’s first grandchild and they absolutely adored each other. It’s difficult, but like others have said, you will find the strength from somewhere and children are incredibly resilient – I like the idea Lainy mentioned about getting a few books…. they may help.
My heart goes out to you and your family…
Jen
I’m so sorry for your loss Jeff… you are in my thoughts. May your memories bring you peace in the days to come.
Jen
Anp,
I have to agree with what everyone else said. It makes me a bit sad to read your posts since Dad’s death happened just over a month ago and I’m having a much harder time now then when it first happened, but they are right – I think he’s trying to prepare you for what’s to come. Dad let us know that his time was coming, and he was right – and for him, it really did happen in a matter of a few days/weeks. He started to pick at the air and his blankets, talk to people who we could not see (but who I choose to believe really were there with him), and like your Dad, would be “with” us some of the time, and gone the rest. He slowly got more aggitated and couldn’t be alone, since he had no strength but would try to get up. Over the days, he was with us less and less until he became unresponsive (though still awake). We know he could hear us though, as he cried when he heard a certain song, and cried out to us occasionally. I’m so sorry for what you are going through. Please continuously tell your Dad that you are going to be okay, that you love him, and just be with him… even as things progress, I promise you that he will know you are there. I’m thinking and praying for you and yours.Jen
Mary,
I hope they can resolve these issues quickly and Tom can enjoy plenty more quality time. Thinking and praying for you and yours…Jen
Rose – so glad the funeral went well yesterday and you had a nice sunny day. Hope you are doing okay today – I found the day after the funeral a bit tough, since there was nothing left to plan or take care of. I’m thinking of you, and hope you are doing well!!
Jen
Rose – Dad was the same way near the end. He was mostly distant the same way you described, but I loved every second that he was lucid and able to communicate, if even only to say “I love you” or “everything’s good” (something we heard a million times since he was diagnosed) before going back into his other little world.
Thinking of you.
Jen
Dad’s funeral was yesterday… it was perfect. A full house, myself and my siblings giving the eulogy with a few other speakers, Dad’s priest giving a great service and adding personal (and funny) stories of Dad. We all made it through, and today it has hit me… my sweet and wonderful Daddy is gone. I’m so sad
I knew it would eventually happen, but we were so busy right after he passed, and we’ve been telling people for so long that we’re all okay so it seemed like we were. I know I still am, but I miss him so much. I’m also really sick, and have been since the day he passed away. Feeling so crummy and not being able to sleep at all is probably adding to my emotional state a bit, but I feel like today is the first time I’ve really realized that he’s actually gone. I do know he’s in a better place, and at peace, which does help.
I am thinking of you all.Jen
