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Dear Lisa – Glad it’s behind you. Hope you feel better each day. Praying for good news. Blessings, Susan
Blessings to you and congratulations on getting through it. Nothing seems harder than learning to get along without one we loved so much. Hope you have plans this year to keep it changed a little to reduce the sense of loss that naturally comes with the holidays. Keep lovin’ on the children. Blessings, Susan
Dear Codergirl – It is so hard to watch a loved one getting ready to leave us, but it sounds like your mom knows where she’s going so she’s packed her bags. There is comfort in that and knowing that you have been blessed to be able to spend time with her. She has loved and been loved as evidenced by you and your sister spending time caring for her. God bless you, your mom and your sister. We are here if you want to talk about the process from here. Blessings, Susan
Dear Ziggy – We’ve been dealing with the fatigue for much longer than we have even had a diagnosis. Fatigue was an earlier sign for us. If I remember correctly, I think our doctor said that even the cancer growing takes energy from the body, in addition to the body trying to fight it, the pain meds, etc. Haing in there. Blessings, Susan
Dear Daddylove – Your love for your dad is admirable. Keep loving him and supporting his decisions. For that there should not be any regrets. We all do the best we can every day and who could ask more than that. Hang in there. Keep coming on to the site and know that we care and we truly understand. Blessings, Susan
Lisa – Look at you 40 months and still going. I agree that God will call you when He is ready. He is getting your new home ready and when He’s done, He’ll call you. You continue to enjoy every day with your life and your family. I’ll say prayers for you and hope for a better than expected report from the doctor. Thanksgiving is just a little over a week away and I’ll be thankful for you having this time with your family. Blessings, Susan
Dear Ziggydog – Sorry that you have to face this monster called cc. It is so hard on the patient and the family members. I agree with what has been said about arming yourself with information so you can be a best advocate for your husband. There is a lot of information available on this site as well as on the internet about cc. Learn all that you can, come here often and share with us. Let us be one of the supports that helps you through this roller coaster ride. People who are going through it also are very helpful and understanding. Blessings to you and your family, Susan
Dear Linda – I echo the encouagement for you to get family counseling – especially for your little guy. He will need a safe place to express his feelings and if dad is not well equipped in that department, provide someone that your son can establish a relationship with now that will help carry him through the months to come. Trained therapists are good at helping children through play and other modalities to express their feelings about the difficulties they are facing. Few things shake the confidence of little people more than a sick or absent parent. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Blessings, Susan
rdh77 – I am so sorry that your dad is having such a difficult time emotionally. Grief has 5 basic stages, and people can through back and forth between them within any given day, week, month. Antidepressants can take 3 to 4 weeks to take their full effect (providing you have the right one). Keep the doctor well informed of dad’s progress or lack of progress as he may need to adjust dosages or change the antidepressant completely. The doctor will be the key to helping with the chemical side of depression. As you know, your mom needs support now like never before. It is hard to keep your head above water when going through all of this. It is a roller coaster ride that isn’t a lot of fun. Know that we care for you and your family and will be here to respond as best we can to any questions you may have. My husband has cc and while he has suffered depression and anger and pain, he has not had a Whipple or any other invasive procedure so I am unable to comment on that. Keep looking up and make sure to tell your dad how much you love him. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. blessings, Susan
Dear Lainy = Yes, Randy has nausea medicine and he takes it as needed. We have learned that for him, he needs warm food in the morning. Anything cold immediately comes back up. If we do warm food and drink, he seems to do ok. We got peach juice yesterday. He is noticeably weaker every day. He walks to the kitchen and back to bed a couple times a day. Sometimes he walks out to the car and back just to get some fresh air. He has the mood swings and yesterday was a tough one, but today he is more himself. I am adapting better to the mood swings and I certainly don’t take them personally. My 26 year old daughter mentioned yesterday that in so many ways we have already lost her dad. He isn’t the same caring, loving man we have always known. We appreciate his anger, feeling crappy, worried about leaving us, his grief over not seeing his grandbabies grow up or even start school. We feel for him in his pain, but are already grieving the man we have known and loved for so long. Love talking to you on this post. Thanks for all your support and courage. Hope T is doing well today. By the way, I made a butterscotch rum cake today that was not very sweet and it is one thing that Randy has really enjoyed. He can’t eat anything that is too sweet. Blessings, Susan
Dear Varun – Thank you for sharing with us. I am so sorry that your mom had to leave, but what a blessing that you could be with her. She had her loved ones around her until the very end. I pray for peace and blessings for you and your family in this loss. Please come back often and tell us how you are doing. There is a lot of support still available to you on this site. Blessings, Susan
Dear lmcnish = Please continue to communicate with us about your dad’s condition and how it is going. So many people are so encouraging on this site. Sorry you had to find us, but glad that we can walk through this with you. Blessings, Susan
Oh Lainy- Next year thanksgiving in Arizona with you and Gavin. I can’t wait. I am so glad that T was able to go to the golf tournament. I was so encouraged to see that T eats an occasional 1/2 burger or KFC. I thought maybe Randy was odd in his eating habits, but he eats those things. He is asking for more soup and cottage cheese with peaches as most other things make him nauseous now. I really think he and T are at a similar stage as you have said before. You inspire me to be better than I am alone. Thanks. Looking forward to hearing more from you and T. I appreciate Marion and Gavin as well. Blessings to all and I think it would be wonderful if the choir came over to sing for Teddy. Susan
Dear Varun – So sorry for you experiencing your mom’s condition this way. It is so difficult to see a loved one slipping away and having no control. Please take whatever comfort you can from knowing that others care and will be here to listen. Again, I am so sorry but thinking of you. Blessings, Susan
Dear JC – So many of us are experiencing the effects of cc at different levels and in different relationships. The support on this site is awesome. I’m sure someone will be able to answer your questions or give you direction toward an answer. As so many say, we are sorry that you needed to find us, but glad you found us. Blessings, Susan
