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Kim,

I am so sorry for what your family is going through. I was in your position last year at this time. Hospice started coming to our house at the end of August, and Mom passed away September 13th. I know how you are torn in so many ways. This is the hardest point of your life. We are here for you. I wish that I had the magical words to make things better, please come and vent anytime that you need us.

Love, Amy

Kim,

Your post hit so close to home. Last year at this time we were almost in the same spot you are in now, and it is NOT an easy one. My mom was diagnosed in October 2006. Hospice started coming the end of August 2009. It was so hard to decide that hospice needed to come, but once they started it lifted a weight off of my shoulders.
It must be so hard for you having both parents have medical issues, I am so sorry. Has your sister said if it is easier or harder for her having hospice come, since she is a hospice nurse?
You are doing exactly what you need to do for your mother. You are being there and loving her and spending time with her. Cherish this time with her and try and just focus on the day (I know that is so much easier said than done.)
Just wanted to you to know that you are in my thoughts and prayers.
Love, Amy

Hi Bob,

Sorry that your father had a few false starts. This is a tricky disease to diagnoses. My mom went to the IU Med Center. We had some fabulous drs there. Dr Attila Nakeeb did her surgery in 2006. Romnee Clark was her chemo oncologist. Higinia Cardenes was her radiation oncologist. We were very happy with all of them.

Amy

Kris and Hans,

Have been thinking about you both so much the past week. Please know you are both in my prayers.

Amy

Mom’sDaughter, I can feel your pain in your post. I am so sorry. My mom passed away on September 13th. She was originally diagnosed in October 2006, had surgery, and cancer returned August 2008. Mom was in the hospital in August 2009 and then came home on hospice also. She was with hospice for about 2 weeks. You talked about your moms breathing. That is something that still sticks in my head now. The last couple of hours mom was alive her breathing was like a nightmare that I can’t get out of my mind. I also can remember waiting for the next breath. Please know that we are here for you. I know how sad you are.

Pam, You and I will both be thinking about our moms on April 3rd. April 3rd was my mom’s birthday.

Love, Amy

I am so sorry that you are having to go through this battle. How lucky your mom is to have you on her team. I completely understand your concerns. My mom fought cc for 3 years. She passed away this past September. A few weeks before she was passed while she was in the hospital a doctor stopped me in the hall and told me that she only had a few weeks-months to live, I was in total shock. I had convinced myself that she would beat it this time too, and so did she. I asked the dr not to tell her what he had told me. I too was afraid that it would break her spirit and she would not have the drive to fight like she had been. They honored my wishes and didn’t tell her. I feel good about my decision. Like the others have said, try and not jump too far ahead ( I know, much easier said than done!!!!), but if you feel comfortable, talk to your mom’s drs and tell them your feelings too. You are on this journey also.

Big hugs!
Amy

Oh Gavin,

I am so sorry for you loss. I know that your heart is breaking. I went through the same journey in September, when my wonderful Mom passed away. I am so sorry that you are having to go through this.

I am amazed at what a wonderful, loving son you are. I really feel like I got to meet your dad through your posts. He was so incredibly lucky to have such a wonderful fighter as you on his team.

Your family is in my thoughts and prayers,
Amy