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I tried too and all I got is the same as everyone else. At first I thought it was just me. If possible, I also will try again next week.
Elaine,
How wonderful that you could talk about Gary. It made the day special. Sometimes it is easier to share with strangers than those close to us and sometimes those strangers are more understanding and sympathetic. I am sure that it meant a lot to you and also to them. As for crying your eyes out, I still do that at times and yes they are good cleansing tears that leave you exhausted, but feeling better. It is interesting how these opportunities to talk about our husbands seem to arise when we need them the most. It is all so hard, but we will get through this together one day at a time.
Take care Elaine and know that I will be thinking of you and all the others here sharing this journey of grieving.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaOh Gavin,
I know just what you are feeling. This is my second year since Jim passed and I still have my really down times especially this time of year. Father’s Day, then his 64th birthday would have been 7/2 and also it was this time of year all his problems started and by 9/2 he was gone. So, know I share your feelings and grief and that I am thinking of you. As Lainy said, they are all around us, we just have to be sensitive to the signs. That is comforting.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaLinda, I totally agree. My husband had one in the ER that was so rude I reported her. Was told she was having a bad day. Yeah right! Ours was worse. In all fairness, we had one doctor in ER that was very kind, compassionate and understanding. He said to ask for him when we came in as if he was there he would make sure we were taken care of immediately.
Kim, Good luck to you and your family. I hope you run into some of the good ones, too.
Darla
Wow Kristin! Another adventure you didn’t want or need, but I am glad it all turned out OK . Hopefully things will settle down some for you now.
Take care,
DarlaRick, You are so right. Nothing can compare to a great big hug. I feel sorry for those who are not comfortable with it. They don’t know what they are missing. So here’s a great big cyber HUG for you and everyone else on these boards. (Not as good as the real thing, but it will have to do)!
DarlaHollie,
Once again, I am so sorry for your loss. Sophie will be greatly missed by all of you and also by all of us. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
With Love & Hugs,
DarlaI totally agree with everything Kris has said. My husband had ultrasounds, ct scans etc. and none of them caught it in the beginning and in his case it had probably been there for a very long time. Live for today and enjoy every day you are given. Take care and keep coming back, it does help to know others care and understand.
Darla
Oh Hollie,
I am soooooooo sorry. I just saw this thread and only read the last few post and misunderstood. Go ahead and cry, crying can be a good thing. Releases some of the stress. Again, my thoughts and prayers are with all of you.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaHollie,
I am so sorry to hear that Sophie has passed on. I too know how hard it is. There are no words that will ease the pain right now, but know that she will be with you forever in your heart and memories. Try to take comfort in knowing that for her the pain and suffering is over and she has moved on to a better place. You and the rest of the family are all in my thoughts and prayers at this extremely sad time.
Darla
Jtoro,
Don’t beat yourself up about what has happened. It is no ones fault. CC is so unpredictable and hard to diagnosis. My husband was going to his doctor regularly and in June his tests were all fine, including his liver enzymes. His cancer was interhepatic in the bile ducts of his liver and so advanced that he died 7 weeks after the first indications that anything was wrong. We didn’t even know for sure what it was until about a week before he passed away.
Although I have heard of it going this quickly often on this site, there are also many stories of successful treatments and people living a long time. I do believe that a good attitude does help. I have been on here since a few days after he passed away and that was almost 2 years ago. In that time I have seen some great advances and much more awareness of this very rare type of cancer. No one knows what the future will bring. Try to keep your hopes up and stay positive. Try not to look back, but forward. I know that is not easy with what you are dealing with, but please do not blame yourself. Keep in touch and let us know how you are doing. You will get so much help and support from the people here it is unbelievable. I will be hoping for the best for you.
Darla
Betsy,
My answer to that is “What ever made him think I am that strong?????”
Another one I’m not to fond of is “Everything happens for a reason”. I still haven’t figured out what that reason is!
Darla
Kris,
I too admire your courage and sense of humor. I think it is important to see the lighter side even if others don’t understand and find it strange. It’s what keeps you strong. I agree with Lainy, it is this horrible cancer that brought me here and gave me another whole “family” who truely understand.
All my best wishes to all on these boards.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaHi Everyone,
Teresa, It sounds like you got the rest Pauline was hoping you would get, unfortunately, it took an infection to get you there. I am glad you are now feeling a bit better and getting stronger. It sounds like your family has been through so much. Coming to terms with it all and make peace with everything and yourself will be a daunting task. Raising all that money for the hospice was a great accomplishment. I am hoping you will get to the opera soon as it sounds like it means a lot to you and is something that you and Roy shared for years and really enjoyed. I do hope you will stick with us. As Pauline said, you have given so much of yourself to help support us and hopefully we can do the same for you.
Janet, You mentioned you miss Joel’s political ramblings. Jim played the accordian and once he got going there was no stopping him. It generally drove me nuts and now I would give anything to hear him playing again. I even had one of my sons play one of them for me. Made me smile.
Pauline, As you know, I share so many of your thoughts and feelings. We seem to be traveling the same paths with our grief.
Joyce & Sue and everyone else, I hope things are going well for all of you.
Everyone take care and keep in touch. I hope we will be hearing from some of you soon.
Love & Hugs,
Darla
