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Dear Monique,
I am so sorry that you too are going through this. No one should ever have to deal with this, but many of us have and know what you are feeling. My husband was only 62. We were married 41 years and together 45. He passed away less than 2 months after his first symptoms. I am glad you have found this site as there is a lot of support, comfort & love here. Yes, it is awful, but we are all here for you. You are not alone. Please keep coming back and let us know how things are going.
With Love & Hugs,
DarlaKris,
I agree, whine and vent all you want. We are all here for you. I know you are trying to be realistic and that is a good thing. I am hoping that with your attitude and all of us behind you good will win out. For now, enjoy what you have and live it for all your worth!
I know about the selfish thing and wanting more. When Jim passed on I often said that he is in a better place and no longer suffering & in pain, but I’m selfish, I wanted more.
Just know that we are all on your team and if thoughts and prayers can make it happen, it will.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaPauline,
It appears you are experiencing Wisconsin weather!
Glad you had good neighbors to help out. Also good to hear that you and Julia were able to meet and have a nice chat. Yes, it would be great if more of us could do that and as Janet said, maybe some time in the future it will be doable.Getting back to work is always a challenge, but then again it is keeping busy that keeps us going.
I’m off to shopping and dinner with a friend who lost her husband 3 months after Jim passed on. Their situation was much like ours. Together forever, love of her life, soul mate and now left to go it alone, so once we discovered our common loss, we try to get together now and again and also email a lot. Sundays are always a challenge for both of us as we always spent them going places and doing things with our husbands, so when we can spend a day like this it is comforting to us both. We are only about an hour away, but with the weather and road conditions, it is harder in the winter months. Hopefully we will be able to get together and do more this spring & summer.
I hope everyone is doing OK. Everyone take care and keep in touch.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaMargaret & Tom,
Sorry to hear things didn’t work out today. I’m glad you have a good attitude to help you KEEP KICKIN’ THAT CANCER!!!!!!!
Darla
WOW! Good job Lisa. I’m proud of you. Can’t wait to read the article. You deserved to be able to get in that little dig. It is all so true. Making people more aware of CC at the end of Cholangiocarcinoma Awareness Month. How good is that!?!?!?!?
Darla
Mary,
I’m cheering along with you. Who would ever have thought that white eyeballs could make you so happy!
Darla
Hi Sethwoman,
Welcome to our family. I’m glad you have been reading on the site but sorry that you have to be here. Keep coming back and let us know how things are progressing. This site and the people on it are amazing. You will get all the best information, support, strength and courage we can give and we are also good listeners if you just want to vent. Hopefully you will know more after your mom’s discussion with the doctors today.
Darla
Mary,
I too am hoping things will work out for Tom and you. Hopefully the diet will be helpful. Take care of Tom and also yourself.
Thinking Of You,
Darla
Jim,
What a lovely tribute to your wife and your life together. I have pictures of Jim all around me and looking at them makes me smile and sometimes still takes my breath away. Yes, I believe, like you, I also am afflicted with obsessive sentimentality disorder.
Darla
Bob & Rose,
Your story is so uplifting. Thanks for sharing it with all of us. Kathy, you are so right. All you can do is live every day to the fullest and appreciate every one of them. Hoping for the best for all of you.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDear Kay,
I am so sorry you have lost your Dad. My husband was only 62 when he passed from CC. I too was full of anger, regret, remorse etc., but have tried to let it go. They are all now in a better place, no longer having to suffer and fight this terrible disease that takes some from us so quickly. No words can easy your pain, but try to take comfort in knowing that your Father will always be with you in your heart & memories.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaKris,
I agree, your attitude and acceptance is amazing for someone so young. It will get you through whatever life has in store for you.
Jeff & Marc,
I think being realistic and planning for the worst, but hoping for the best, then enjoying whatever time you are given is the way to go. As Lainy says “Attitude Is Everything!”
Jeff,
Sorry you and Marc had such a disappointing day. Hopeful things will fall into place soon and a treatment plan will be in place.
I’m more Styx, Air Supply, Journey!
I hope things go more smoothly tomorrow.
Darla
Hi Jim,
Thank you for sharing your story. It brought tears to my eyes. It is so similar to mine except that we were not as fortunate as you to have the time you were given. My husband Jim passed away less than 2 months from when he had the first sypmtoms that anything was wrong. We were given the CC diagnosis a week before he passed on. You were so fortunate to have that extra time together and it sounds like you made the most of it.
I truely understand your pain & loss. Losing the love of your life, your soul mate, is not easy. I tell people that Jim & I were fortunate to have had more than most, but I am selfish. I wanted more!
However, if more meant that he would have had to continue to suffer and be in pain, I am happy for him that it went quickly and that he is now in a better place where there is no pain & suffering. Our loved ones will always be with us in our hearts and memories.Keep coming back. The loving support on this site and the ability to hopefully help others does help us heal.
My heart goes out to you, as I share in your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Darla
