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Hi Again Pam,
I am one of those who’s story is much like yours. Jim was 62 & healthy like your husband and died less than 2 months after his first symptoms and only one week after getting a firm diagnosis. We were blindsided, just like you. I found this site a few days after he passed on. I felt like you that if only we had known sooner it may have been different, but now I just have to believe that it happened the way it was meant to and that atleast he did not suffer for too long and he is no longer in pain and is in a better place. It is the hardest for those of us who are left behind. I try to remember that he will always be with me in my heart & memories.
This site has been invaluable to me. The people here are just great. I am part of the thread about Anthony that began with Pauline. Several of us have become close & keep in touch with each other. It has given me the strength to go on. It is always good to know that you are not alone and that others understand. It also helps to know that what you are feeling is “normal” for you as we are all going through the same things. Please feel free to join us. For me it has been the best support as I really do not think anyone who hasn’t dealt with this type of cancer or gone through what we all have can possible know & understand, like the people here do, what it is like. Everyone here truely understands and cares. They are the kindest most compassionate people on earth. As Kris said, none of this is fair, but you are not alone. We are all here for each other.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDear Pamela,
I know exactly what you mean. We were the same. I also find myself so often thinking “I have to tell Jim” about this or that or I wonder what he will think of something. You no longer have him there to share those things with or talk things over with. It has been almost 10 months for me & it is still hard. I have good days & bad but it is what it is. I try to keep myself busy as much as possible, as when I don’t is when it is the hardest. Take care & know that I am thinking of you.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaHi Everyone,
Well, now we start another new week. I hope everyone made it through the weekend as best possilbe.
Pauline, I can’t wait to hear more from you & Marion about the conference. I like you am going through the one year ago memories. I know that the next months will probably not be easy for either of us, but knowing we are not alone sure does help.
Janet, The massage sounds good to me too. I think we do need to do things for ourselves now & again. Glad to hear that your Mum is doing good in rehab.
Joyce, Glad you are happy with your “new” hair. It does seem that your job, home & yard keep you busy, which is a good thing. It sounds as if you are in the same mode as Pauline & I, remembering where things were at a year ago. It is all so hard and so sad, but what are we to do?
Sue, I am sure you are having a great time in Las Vegas. Looking forward to hearing about it & the graduation, too. I am sure your Mum will do fine with her surgery. She sounds to be in good shape for her age.
As with Sue, my thoughts & prayers are with all on these boards, so now we all need to put on our brave faces & carry on. Hoping everyone has as good a week as possible.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaHi Deb,
I too am sorry to hear what your Dad is going through. I will be hoping for the best for your Dad and will keep him, you & your family in my thoughts & prayers.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDear Pamela,
Thank you for your kind thoughts. I am so sorry to hear that you too have lost your husband to this horrible disease. I am glad you have found this site & hope you will continue to keep in touch. We are all here to help & support each other. I will keep you in my thoughts & prayers along with everyone else dealing with this awful disease.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaLisa,
I too can’t explain what that all means, but want you to know how happy I was to hear the good news.
Darla
Lady’s,
I am soooooo jealous. I sure do wish I were there with you! I know you will both do your best & accomplish much. Waiting to hear all about it.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDear Danielle,
I know that no words can change how you are feeling or what you are going through. I have been there & still am at times. There are days that are better & many that are not. These are still very early times for you. I don’t really think it will ever be the same, but I do think that with time we learn to live with the pain & loss and try to go on. I too do not see how I can have a life or future that does not include my husband, but I know that our husbands would want us to be strong and to live the rest of our lives to the fullest and hopefully even to be able to smile & be happy again some day. I just am not sure yet how to accomplish that. This site & the support of the people on it have been invaluable to me, so keep coming back. We are all here for each other.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaJolene,
I have to thank you for sharing your feelings. I lost my husband around the same time as your Dad and so much of what you said & are feeling is the same for me. It does help to remind me that we are all in this together & none of us is alone. We all share this lonely road of grieving.
I have a hard time with cards and gifts too, as they are no longer from both of us, but only from me. That just reinforces that I am now alone.
I will hope & pray for better days ahead for all of us.
Darla
Dear Pauline,
I will be thinking of you & Marion in Barcelona & I know you will be able to do some good. I am sure everyone appreciates the effort you are making to bring more awarness to the needs of those dealing with CC.
I know what you are going through and how you are feeling, as I am doing the same. There is nothing to be done about it, and it won’t change anything, but I guess it is just part of the process that we need to go through. I am hoping that the memorial you are planning will give you some peace, comfort & closure.
Good luck to you at the conference. I will be there with you in heart & spirit.
Hi to everyone else here too. Hope everyone is doing OK. Take care.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDear Charlene,
How lucky you are to have had that beautiful dream. I too am sure that John is letting you know that he approves of the decisions you are making. Have a safe trip and good luck to you in your new life. Please keep in touch with us when you have settled in & let us know how things are going. I will be thinking of you and will keep you in my prayers.
Love & Hugs,
DarlaDear Lew,
Welcome. I am so sorry for what you & your wife are going through fighting this horrid disease. I agree that you are a great support to your wife. I know how hard this is to deal with as my husbands CC came on with a vengence after being very healthy all his life.
I too feel that you need to say what needs to be said & then just be there for her. The most important thing is to be sure she is comfortable & in as little pain as possible.
On this site you have found the most wonderful, supportive group of people you can hope to find. We have all been touched in one way or another by this terrible cancer and are here to help in any way we can. Come back often as we are all here for you. There is always someone here to help, support, comfort or just to listen if you need to vent your feelings.
I will keep you & your family in my thoughts & prayers.
Darla
Amy,
I too am glad that your Mom is feeling a lot better. I do think you need to keep on top of the situation tho’ and I don’t know that you want to wait that long, but I guess that is up to your Mom. I am hoping for continued improvement for her.
Darla
