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Margaret,
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my mom 3 days before you lost Tom. The pain is unbearable at times. I understand. Hugs.
Thank you for sharing. I wish I had known about his FB while my mom was experiencing the same symptoms. What a courageous man.
Bless his heart.
I’m kind of new around here, and lost my mother 2 weeks ago to CC. I know it’s not the same as your spouse, but it’s devastating to me.
I just want you to know that I feel so bad for you. I have a family of 6, and we struggle every single day with money. I don’t know how we’ll make it some days. But you know what, Theresa, each night I go to bed, and I wake up and start another day. I know it’s going to be just as sucky as the day before, but I do it anyway. I owe it to my kids, if no one else. I’m not saying it’s easy. It’s hard, and they days are long, but somehow, things work out.
Just know that we may not have the answers, we may not even “understand,” but we are all in this together, one way or another. We can do this…one day at a time.
Hugs, sweetie!
Hi,
My mom was diagnosed on July 18th of this year, and passed away on November 17th. The final weeks/month were such a rapid decline, but it gave all of us time to say goodbye. We talked about death and dying, we talked about heaven, and we talked about what we would do when she was gone. What I learned, and I hope this doesn’t upset you, is that: it’s going to happen. You can either fight it all the way, or say everything that you can say and love all you can, and be there for every single moment. I was with my mom 24/7 for the last 2 weeks of her life. I don’t regret it for a second.
Hugs and love.
I am new to the board, and didn’t know Tom’s story, but what a fighter he was. My mom died November 17th, so hopefully they have met each other and will be enjoying Thanksgiving in heaven together.
Hugs and love
Becky
Hi. I can’t help with very much, other than to tell you that we struggled, and struggled and continue to struggle with money while mom was sick. Sometimes you just wish somebody would give you a break. We broke down and got a car title loan. For a little while, it helped us breathe. We’re paying it back now. Is there any relative you can reach out to, to help you until you can get back on your feet?
Having a financial issue on top of this with your mom is just so bad. Please check on the resources around you. I know you trust in God, but you must also know that there are people who are willing to help.
You all have made me smile. Mom is still with us, but the nurses feel she will pass today sometime. Her heart is IS strong, though, and she’s such a fighter. Whatever happens, will happen. More than one day at a time, one hour at a time. Thank you all for caring.
Thank you all for your support. I read and and every response. My mom is currently in the process of passing over. She became very confused and disoriented this morning. We called the hospice nurse, and she said she was declining fast. My sister and I are by her side, and she has a nurse here 24/7. She is non responsive, and her BP is 84/55. We have told her it’s time, and that we are ok. She said she was ready to go, over and over. We are still by her side. I love my mom so much.
Jen
I just read your posts from the last few days. I am so sorry your father had to pass, but WOW, how peaceful it seems.
My mother is following what you all say almost as if it were a checklist. I’m happy to have met you all.Thank you Lainy and Jen. Funny, Mom told me just this morning that she is seeing people who have passed away before her in her dreams. Being her daughter, I just “know” that the time is near. When I think about the difference between this week, and even last week, it’s amazing how fast this is going. She told me she is ready, and has even mentioned trying to .. make it go faster. I know it’s a taboo subject, but I just had to mention it.
Peggy and Pam,
I am so sorry for your losses. It really opens your eyes when you realize that everyone who posts on this board is a victim, one way or another, of the horrible monster.
I didn’t mention that I do have the book “When the End is Near” from hospice. It has been almost exactly “right on the mark.”
She’s having hallucinations today. She’s had them before, but was dreaming. Now she’s having them while awake. Hospice nurse comes today, and we will discuss what’s going on.
Thank you all again.
Lainey,
This was immensely helpful. I honestly and truthfully can’t wait for her to pass over to something better. She’s led a wonderful life, and I will miss her more than I can say, but she is so so sick. Thank you
Thank you Lainy and Patty.
You two have said, basically, what hospice has said. I hate that she feels so helpless. We have said our goodbyes and have talked about her wishes.
We are at the stage where she’s not eating. She’s not vomiting a lot, but she’s getting nauseated a lot.
I appreciate the insight. I am so sorry for both of your losses.
