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My dad itched for a long time too. He tried topical cream and pills prescribed by his doctor. His feet did not itch. He had little scars on his chest and stomach from scratching. He said itching can drive you crazy! He mostly itched at night while in bed when his body became warmer. He was anemic and had scopes (stomach and colon) to try and find internal bleeding. Nothing was found. He also had elevated liver emyemes and stopped lipitor. Stopping lipitor did not help. The year before diagnosis my dad thought he had the flu twice in one season. He also slept a lot which really wasn’t that unusual. Nothing was found until he became jaundice. My dad was seeing three different doctors at this time.
Kelly, you certainly have your plate full. How can you not take care of your parents? I helped take care of my mom for six years after a significant stroke and my dad for six months after his cc diagnosis. You just do it! But, you need to take care of yourself too! I think you received a good appointment turn around time for SK. What is her biliruben level? Have they talked about a plastic or metal stent to relieve her jaundice? A digestive specialist can take care of doing that procedure. A cure for this cancer is ultimately surgery. Some people live for a long time with no surgery. For some, this cancer is slow
growing. Your mom is young and should be able to battle this. I wish your mom the best. Take care of yourselves!Beth, I was saddened to hear Dave had passed. He fought such a courageous battle. I remember your post a few weeks ago when he just made your day. He was sitting up in bed and gave you a huge smile and asked you how you were. I know your heart is completely broke right now but just close your eyes and remember that handsome smile. I am praying for your family and especially Maycie.
Andie, my thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. I know it is heartbreaking to see your dad in this condition. I know when my dad was in the same place I seemed to always be saying, I’m so sorry, Dad. I meant it, but my dad said, “What are you sorry for? You didn’t do anything.” He was a tough guy, too.
I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers go out to your family. Try to rest for the upcoming days.
I’ve been following Dave’s CaringBridge site for a few months and have been rooting for him. Beth’s posts have been an inspiration and testament of the love they share. Wishing Dave a peaceful journey and Beth strength. Godspeed.
Andie, I’m sorry for everything your family is going through. The pills your dad are taking for itching sound really strong. If he doesn’t adjust to them, the doctor should try something else. My dad used nivea lotion that the pharmacy added cloves to. He also took anti itch pills that did not make him sleepy. We also mixed a power in juice to take bile out of his system. I wish I knew the name of the anti itch pills he took. My dad also lost so much muscle mass so quickly. My dad at one point told the social worker he felt like a burden too. We could understand this at first because we would have done anything for him and made it feel completely normal. I think he felt this way because he became so
dependent on us for everything and it was so hard for him to lose control. His hospice nurse came once a week for about 1/2 hour and an aid came twice a
week. We did not get much help at all. I pray for strength for your family. You
are doing a great job talking with your parents! They raised a terrific daughter. Best wishes to you. PamAndie, If your dad is using morphine this could be the cause for his runny nose. It happened to my dad in moderation. This is what we were told. Your dad has done really well for so long! I remember all your posts around the same time I was posting about my dad. You keep such a watchful eye on him!
My dad had the same results. He had an attempted resection and was closed back up. He did try two chemo sessions and came very sick. He lived 6 months after diagnosis. He was 75 and did have other health issues, too. There comes a point were quality of life outweighs buying a little more time especially for the sick and elderly that can’t really fight. It was important for us to have him enjoy what little time he had left. Sorry to hear about your lovely mom. Pam
My thoughts and prayers go out to you, Dave, and family. I think it is a wise decision for Dave to stay at Landmark. He is receiving excellent care there and it is important for Macie to have great memories of him at home. So sorry for the many ups and downs you are having. You and Dave have an amazing amount of love and respect for each other. Your posts are truly inspirational. Thank you for sharing your life. We have so much to learn from you.
Bless your heart. I’m so sorry your mom is in such a rough place. My dad had weakness and shakiness the last few weeks or so of his life. It didn’t stop him from trying to drink his coffee, though. I’d lift the bottom of the cup for him. He also had secretions and we had medication for those too. In the end, he was in a very peaceful sleep induced coma. We had to crush medication and give it to him with drops of water. ( some medication does not come in liquid). You will have the strength to love and take care of her to the end. What a great daughter you are. The song is probably a symbol that she is getting ready to go. Thoughts and prayers to your mom, you, and your family.
Everyone who has posted has given you excellent advice and support. I’m there with them. I lost my mom two years ago and my dad in November to cc. It is tough to think they are both gone. My sister and i were his care givers and it was very intense. I’ve been taking one day at a time and doing simple things that make me happy and make my family happy. Like Lainy posted, if you still find yourself so sad and unable to manage, grief counseling is appropriate. We could all use a little help from time to time. Your Mom would be proud you’re so
strong. Best wishes coming out to you.
